sorry to hear it went a lil in the wrong direction, I hope yer get better soon to be back here with us to abuse many more generations of hardware to come.
Take your time to recover and then you'll be ready to rejoin your family, back here, at PCA
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Chris, I hope you can get your life back together soon as I know that it's tough some times. My wife also has bouts with depression and paranoia at times but she's getting better lately so I know that there's hope. It helps to talk to friends and try avoiding as many bad situations as possible, staying far away from anything that can hurt you like drugs and weapons. Life will get better for you as time goes on so hang in there and try to look for that light at the end of the tunnel as it's there, no doubt.
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its that old fool reno
if i can do anything just say i might just find one of those old joke and post it just for you !
you get your butt better and get back to that old you we really have missed seeing you and im sure you want to see (well some of us you would like to see ) us back here to !
take care and get your butt well very soon ~
its that old fool reno
if i can do anything just say i might just find one of those old joke and post it just for you !
you get your butt better and get back to that old you we really have missed seeing you and im sure you want to see (well some of us you would like to see ) us back here to !
take care and get your butt well very soon ~
the Last time I was Talking to myself . I got into such a heated argument . that is why I swore I never talk to that guy again. you know what it worked now no buddy talking to me. 
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Thanks a million guys. Have printed that load out and will get 'em to him ASAP. He's gratefull beyond comprehension. It is nice to know people you never met are more reliable than those you thought were your closest, I guess.
You are all top people, so on behalf of Chris.U.K the overclocker extreme thanks.
And I will keep you all up to date!
You are all top people, so on behalf of Chris.U.K the overclocker extreme thanks.
And I will keep you all up to date!
A little crazy, but safe enough
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Hi Chris, I'm real sorry you are dealing with depression and these feelings - they suck and I do have some experience with people VERY close to me that have gone through the same thing. The good part is that there IS HOPE and please DON'T FORGET that. Many people with this battle of hurting themselves think that they are the only ones that do this to themselves, and that's definitely not true. There are many people that deal with their depression the way you are, and they are all a cry for help - the problem is that most people don't know how to deal with it and that includes medical people.
You are not alone Chris, please understand that. It's incredibly hard for you and it is also incredibly hard for the people that love you to see you go through this. That includes Zak33, he seems like a great friend to you and loves you - he even posted this even though it's probably the toughest thing for him to do. How do you post the pain from your best friend and worry that you wrote it wrong or get the wrong responses? You did great Zak33, that's for sure - you really did great. Chris is screaming for help at this point and I sure do hope that you get the right person/people to help you there in the UK.
You are not alone Chris, please understand that. Also understand that this is something that can be controlled, but it is a slow process. There is a lot to be said for therapy that deals with this specifically, but often it is something that has happened in a person's childhood that may have played a part in getting to this point in your life. It could be an abusive parent or a single traumatic moment in your life (young or old) that triggered the way you feel - often it is an accumulation of those things that drive people to those urges that confuse the brain at the very moment of hurting yourself. What I've been told by one of those very people is that at the time that they do this, the emotional pain of what they are dealing with is so intense that hurting themself is actually a way to keep their mind from dealing with the emotional pain - it basically takes the brain away from the emotional pain to concentrate on the physical pain. It really sounds like that is what you are going through.
I can tell you that it is hell going through it and it is also hell for the people that really care about you. That includes all of us posting here, otherwise we wouldn't be trying to cheer you up. I can also sit here and tell you to "hope you get better Chris" but I really wanted to try and help you understand that there IS HOPE to beat this thing and that you are NOT ALONE in this. There are lots of books about this subject matter, and the main reason is because this is a global problem that most people want to not deal with and shove under the carpet. Please don't think that you are different or that everyone condemns you for what you're doing, there are many people that are doing this and there are many people that know and love people that are either going through this. Once again the good news is that people DO GET THROUGH THIS. I'm also not going to lie to you and tell you that this is easy to fix, it does take a willingness of the person to try and help themselves and to constantly try to understand the pain that brings you to that point - that is the "core" of your pain and that is sometimes buried very deep, surrounded by all these feelings of wanting to hurt yourself (which is basically a defense system - a wall if you will - that keeps you from dealing with the real problems).
I will plead that you please try to keep yourself from hurting yourself, but I also understand that this is something that you cannot control at this time. The trick is for you to keep at it to try and gain control of those feelings, and there is absolutely no shame in taking medication to balance out a chemical imbalance in your brain. A lot of people with super traumatic experiences suppress the real source of their problems and it there are layers of pain heaped on one another. What you end up doing is to take one layer off at a time, until you get to the core of the problem and then you have to deal with that and not the issues around that. It's not easy but you can do it - I've seen it. I'm not saying it's easy, but you can do it and the rewards of that is life itself. I know you can't see straight sometimes at this point, simply because of the pain involved, but please understand and believe that people love you and that life can be wonderful for you. The main thing is that you have to find someone - a specialist in this exact field - that can understand you help you deal with it. You can do it Chris, I have proof in my life that you can!!!
I did want to mention that Paxel is a medication that is often used to 'balance' out the chemical imbalance that drives you to the point of super depression. It doesn't cure all that your dealing with, but if used correctly it can be used as a vehicle to allow you to get past those feelings. If it gets super bad, Zanex (not sure if I spelled that right) is another medication that is useful when you have those severe panic attacks, it may allow you to get past that point and get back to your 'regular' depression...LOL, I know that sounds weird but at least it can get you past those really intense moments. Don't be scared of the fact that you have those urges right now, you are definitely NOT alone or any different than anyone here on this board or anyone in the entire UK!!! We all have those capabilities if the situation is right for it, some of us just have the misfortune of dealing with more traumatic moments in our life than others. Even people that are deemed the most 'successful' in this world are not immune to this, look at the entertainers that can't deal with theirselves - sometimes until it's too late. And they're supposed to 'have it all' you know? They don't because they're human too and have to deal with their issues inside themselves just like the rest of us. Once again the good news is that you can BEAT THIS THING and get better.
I really do feel for you Chris, I really hope you surround yourself with a support group (very important) that is positive and is there for you when you need them. I hope you already know some of the things I just posted, but I didn't want to let this chance go by to let you know that you can get allright without saying anything. So many times we let chances go to help others, I hope that the people around you understand and support you in your rough time. Please do EVERYTHING you can to help yourself, including trying to read up on self-injury on the net and books and people that have beat this and can help you. You can do it, I know you can!!!
Good luck and cheers from the USA!!!
PS> By the way, I'm originally from The Netherlands so I'm a fellow European
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You are not alone Chris, please understand that. It's incredibly hard for you and it is also incredibly hard for the people that love you to see you go through this. That includes Zak33, he seems like a great friend to you and loves you - he even posted this even though it's probably the toughest thing for him to do. How do you post the pain from your best friend and worry that you wrote it wrong or get the wrong responses? You did great Zak33, that's for sure - you really did great. Chris is screaming for help at this point and I sure do hope that you get the right person/people to help you there in the UK.
You are not alone Chris, please understand that. Also understand that this is something that can be controlled, but it is a slow process. There is a lot to be said for therapy that deals with this specifically, but often it is something that has happened in a person's childhood that may have played a part in getting to this point in your life. It could be an abusive parent or a single traumatic moment in your life (young or old) that triggered the way you feel - often it is an accumulation of those things that drive people to those urges that confuse the brain at the very moment of hurting yourself. What I've been told by one of those very people is that at the time that they do this, the emotional pain of what they are dealing with is so intense that hurting themself is actually a way to keep their mind from dealing with the emotional pain - it basically takes the brain away from the emotional pain to concentrate on the physical pain. It really sounds like that is what you are going through.
I can tell you that it is hell going through it and it is also hell for the people that really care about you. That includes all of us posting here, otherwise we wouldn't be trying to cheer you up. I can also sit here and tell you to "hope you get better Chris" but I really wanted to try and help you understand that there IS HOPE to beat this thing and that you are NOT ALONE in this. There are lots of books about this subject matter, and the main reason is because this is a global problem that most people want to not deal with and shove under the carpet. Please don't think that you are different or that everyone condemns you for what you're doing, there are many people that are doing this and there are many people that know and love people that are either going through this. Once again the good news is that people DO GET THROUGH THIS. I'm also not going to lie to you and tell you that this is easy to fix, it does take a willingness of the person to try and help themselves and to constantly try to understand the pain that brings you to that point - that is the "core" of your pain and that is sometimes buried very deep, surrounded by all these feelings of wanting to hurt yourself (which is basically a defense system - a wall if you will - that keeps you from dealing with the real problems).
I will plead that you please try to keep yourself from hurting yourself, but I also understand that this is something that you cannot control at this time. The trick is for you to keep at it to try and gain control of those feelings, and there is absolutely no shame in taking medication to balance out a chemical imbalance in your brain. A lot of people with super traumatic experiences suppress the real source of their problems and it there are layers of pain heaped on one another. What you end up doing is to take one layer off at a time, until you get to the core of the problem and then you have to deal with that and not the issues around that. It's not easy but you can do it - I've seen it. I'm not saying it's easy, but you can do it and the rewards of that is life itself. I know you can't see straight sometimes at this point, simply because of the pain involved, but please understand and believe that people love you and that life can be wonderful for you. The main thing is that you have to find someone - a specialist in this exact field - that can understand you help you deal with it. You can do it Chris, I have proof in my life that you can!!!
I did want to mention that Paxel is a medication that is often used to 'balance' out the chemical imbalance that drives you to the point of super depression. It doesn't cure all that your dealing with, but if used correctly it can be used as a vehicle to allow you to get past those feelings. If it gets super bad, Zanex (not sure if I spelled that right) is another medication that is useful when you have those severe panic attacks, it may allow you to get past that point and get back to your 'regular' depression...LOL, I know that sounds weird but at least it can get you past those really intense moments. Don't be scared of the fact that you have those urges right now, you are definitely NOT alone or any different than anyone here on this board or anyone in the entire UK!!! We all have those capabilities if the situation is right for it, some of us just have the misfortune of dealing with more traumatic moments in our life than others. Even people that are deemed the most 'successful' in this world are not immune to this, look at the entertainers that can't deal with theirselves - sometimes until it's too late. And they're supposed to 'have it all' you know? They don't because they're human too and have to deal with their issues inside themselves just like the rest of us. Once again the good news is that you can BEAT THIS THING and get better.
I really do feel for you Chris, I really hope you surround yourself with a support group (very important) that is positive and is there for you when you need them. I hope you already know some of the things I just posted, but I didn't want to let this chance go by to let you know that you can get allright without saying anything. So many times we let chances go to help others, I hope that the people around you understand and support you in your rough time. Please do EVERYTHING you can to help yourself, including trying to read up on self-injury on the net and books and people that have beat this and can help you. You can do it, I know you can!!!
Good luck and cheers from the USA!!!
PS> By the way, I'm originally from The Netherlands so I'm a fellow European
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